Posts Tagged ‘kids’

A Mama’s Prayers

prayerGod is so good! Although I am totally unworthy, He has listened to this mama’s prayers and actually answered them. I’ve been praying oh, so fervently, for Sam for quite a long time. Despite being raised in church and being inundated with the Bible, he chose to go his own way for a time. He is a person of extremes, all in or all out. So, while he was running from God, he was very far from Him. He said and did some things that made me fear for his safety and even his life. (For example, he once told me that he didn’t need God because he WAS God.) I have prayed and cried for this man-child of mine so hard at times that it felt like something was about to rupture, and I asked some of my friends to pray for him as well. I’m so happy to be able to say that God has answered our prayers. Last week, Sam got saved!

He made a profession of faith when he was about four years old, and he has known practically his whole life how to be saved and why he should get saved. Finally, one evening last week, while I was at work and he was alone in his room, he decided to stop resisting God, and he accepted Christ as his Savior. He told me that he knows FOR SURE now that he is truly saved. I know it, too. He is a totally different person! Old things are passed away, and all things have become new.

All he talks about now is God and the Bible. He is seeking to surround himself with people who will help him grow in his faith and serve God to the fullest. His dreams and goals for the future have drastically changed. He is even talking about going to a Christian college (maybe Milligan), which he would never even think about before. His number one goal right now is leading his best friend to Christ. He spent a few hours talking to him yesterday and has drawn up an outline of what he wants to say next time he gets a chance to talk him some more.

I am completely overcome with emotions, which is why it has taken me a week to write this blog post: I couldn’t get my ecstatic thoughts organized enough to write anything coherent before now. As elated as I am, I know that God did this in spite of me, rather than because of me. It has been a very humbling experience for me to see God work in our home despite my failings and unfaithfulness to Him. So, if you’re praying for someone, even if you’ve been praying for them for quite a while, don’t stop! He is not willing that any should perish, and He has promised to answer prayers that are according to His will.

What Would Jesus Do…If He Were a Mama Bear?

mama-bearI’ve written a couple times (here and here) about how I’m re-reading In His Steps by Charles Sheldon and asking myself “What would Jesus do?” before making decisions or taking action. Well, tonight I’m having a tough time with that. I want so badly to lash out at someone, but I’m fairly certain that wouldn’t be Jesus’ course of action. But, my baby is hurting, and I’m a mama bear, after all.

Sam is a more-sensitive-than-usual young man. He both empathizes with people more and feels his own emotions more deeply than the average guy his age. When other people reject him and his offer of friendship, it cuts him to his very core. And, being his mom, it makes me angry at the insensitivity being portrayed by the other people.

Sometimes, I really want to tell other people that I think they are cold and heartless, and that I wish Sam would just move on and forget about them because he does not need the negativity they bring into his life. But, is that what Jesus would do? No, probably not.

Instead, I try to help Sam see things from the other people’s perspective. I try to hold back my feelings of distaste toward them and tell him that maybe there are reasons or circumstances that we don’t know about. I let him sleep on my bed while I spend the night in my recliner (not sleeping) just to make sure he actually gets some sleep instead of staying awake all night fretting over people he doesn’t need in his life anyway. I watch him all night to make sure he doesn’t do anything everlastingly stupid in a moment of temporary grief.

What else would Jesus do? I’m really not sure, which is why I am also spending much of the night in prayer, asking for wisdom and the right words to say in the morning. Although Jesus never was a mama bear, I do know that He is on our side; and He will defend us, fight for us, protect us, and always love us more than any of the shallow people we may get our hearts set on. I intend to do that for my son.

Third Time

2016-01-31 17.57.30So, what’s that they say when something happens three times? “Third time’s a charm” or “Three strikes, and you’re out”? In this latest incident in the Mulkey household, I believe the latter adage may be the more appropriate one. Sam had a wreck last night. Yes, that makes THREE totaled cars in less than eleven months.

As I was not with him, I don’t know the exact details. I know that he had picked up a friend who needed a ride. They were turning left off the Volunteer Parkway onto Windsor Avenue when Sam hit an oncoming vehicle. Both Sam and his passenger thought he had a turn arrow, which would mean the other driver ran a red light. Of course, the other driver told the police that he had a green light, which meant that Sam made an improper left turn. Sam was given a citation. He is going to fight it, though, so we will see what happens when he goes to court next month.

Unlike his previous two wrecks, this time, Sam went to the ER to get checked out. They did a CT scan of his spine and chest X-rays. The test results came back normal, praise God, but he is still in great pain. He has visible bruises on his chest and neck from the seat belt and air bag. I’m just glad he was wearing his seat belt. He told the nurse practitioner that the seat belt likely saved his life.

Sam’s passenger was a girl about his age who happens to be pregnant. The ultrasound indicated that the baby was fine. The girl is bruised and has a black eye from the air bag. She was kept in the hospital overnight for monitoring, just as a precaution. None of her family stayed with her overnight, and Sam felt so bad about the wreck that he ended up staying with her and sleeping on the couch in her room. I’m sure he wouldn’t have been in as much pain this morning if he had slept at home in his own bed, but it wouldn’t be like Sam to let a friend suffer alone. I’m proud of him for being the loyal friend that he is.

So, we are once again down to just one vehicle, and Sam just can’t understand why I won’t let him drive my car. Kids! In the photo in the upper left corner, you can see the damage done to Sam’s car.

Month of Thanksgiving: Day Twenty

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I am thankful for Sam’s personality, which is apparent in these pictures. Although he can be broody at times, most of the time he is funny and joking around. Life with him has certainly not been boring! Even when I’m upset with him, he has a way of making me smile. (He learned early on how to take advantage of that skill to get out of trouble.) As soon as he started talking, he could retell a joke, making it even funnier than the original version. He’s my ray of sunshine and sometimes the only positive thing in my life.

Month of Thanksgiving: Day Nineteen

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Today, I’m continuing with this week’s theme of being thankful for all things Sam. I’m thankful that he is a hard worker who is responsible and trustworthy. When he got his job at Belk a month ago, he was told that it was temporary and would end on December 26, unless they decided to keep him on. Well, last Friday, they offered him full-time! He got a $1/hr pay raise, and he will get benefits as well. I am so proud of him and happy that the people at Belk can see what I see.

Month of Thanksgiving: Day One

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Today, I am thankful for my son, Sam. November 1 will always serve to remind me how fragile life is, especially the lives of our kids. It was on this day, two years ago, that three of Sam’s friends and band mates were in a horrible wreck, resulting in the passing of two of the boys. My heart still breaks for those two families, and I’m continually thankful for the sparing of Charlie’s life and God’s daily protection over Sam.

More Car Issues

2015-03-20 16.38.11I’m so glad last week is over! It was pretty bad. It was by no means the worst week we’ve ever had, but it was bad.

The worst day was Friday. As Sam was driving to work (his second day on the job), the car hydroplaned (Mustangs are notoriously bad on wet roads) going around a sharp curve on a steep hill, and it ended up wedged under the gruardrail on the opposite side of the road. Sam was shaken but unhurt. The front fender on the driver’s side is completely smashed in, and the fender is now overlapping the hood, but the car is still driveable.

 

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Sam had to call a tow truck but had no money to pay for it. Since his car is undriveable at the moment, I had to walk to where he was in order to pay the tow truck driver. It was only about a mile and a half, but it was raining. By the time I got there, I looked like a drowned puppy.

Keeping the story as short as possible…the car was towed out, Sam took me back home, and then he went on to work, about an hour late.

Sam’s new job is at Domino’s Pizza, as a delivery driver. Thursday night he went out with another driver to learn the ropes, and Friday night he made deliveries solo. The first couple deliveries went off without a hitch. The third one was a different story. The driveway was gravel and mud, and by then, it was dark and still raining. As Sam was leaving the Mustang went off the driveway and got stuck in  a ditch. A co-worker came and tried to pull the car out with his SUV. No luck! Sam had to call 911.

He ended up having an accident report for the second incident, and he had to be pulled out by a tow truck again. It happened too far away for me to walk there to pay the tow truck driver, so he had to follow Sam home to get paid. The man wasn’t nice, and hiked the price up by $15 for the inconvenience.

Again, Sam was shaken but unhurt, other than his pride. The only damage to the car was scrapes on the rear bumper where the co-worker tried to hook onto the car to pull it out with his SUV. All in all, I’d say we were very blessed, and Sam’s guardian angel deserves a medal for protecting him through it all.

As Sam was going to work Saturday evening, he was afraid he would get fired because of everything that happened the night before. Instead, his co-workers, and even the manager, were surprised and pleased that he came back. They said it was a sign that they had hired a good employee. That evening, Sam made several deliveries without incident, earned nearly $30 in tips, and even got to bring home some pizza from messed up orders.

So, although it was a bad week, it ended pretty well.